Lifestyle, Dangerous Concept or ... What? - BDSM

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Following last months blog about fetishes I thought to do a little piece on BDSM (an overlapping abbreviation for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission and Sadism & Masochism) separately. My research on the net however led me to a world and sub-culture so vast and multifarious, so terrifying, so complex, so incomprehensible, so confusing and so counter-intuitive (if all the 'victim' pronouncements of sexual abuse in the news these days is to be believed) that I am not able or qualified in any way to make sense, summary or analysis of it in a short blog, let alone light hearted commentary. But we (MW & I) did a 'symbolic' photo (very tame by comparison to images 'out there') so it seems a shame not to post it anyway.

Oscar Wilde said "I am afraid that Women appreciate cruelty, downright cruelty, more than anything else. They have wonderfully primitive instincts. We have emancipated them, but they remain slaves looking for their masters, all the same. They love being dominated". ........ Can this be true? ..........

Leaving out the typical 'slap and tickle', fur lined hand cuffs and playful leather lingerie & whip - From the massive amount of information, images and video on the net, some of which make Dante's Inferno seem like a picnic in the park, it was difficult to discern: That which is genuine mutual (but extreme) 'play'. That which is commercial enterprise to satisfy our demand for voyeuristic horror (horror films do well at the box office so why not on the net where there are less restrictions and it can be combined with sexual overtones) and, that which is plain awful power lust, control, abuse and torture - akin to what I imagine are snuff movies? There are at least 20 million literal sex slaves world wide for casting of those last two if voluntary 'starlets' and 'stars' unavailable. BDSM requires considerable Skill, Expertise, Experience, and CONSENT if it is to be done properly for mutual benefit of both the Dom and Sub with an eventual safe & healthy outcome. It is of great concern that so much cruel, abusive and humiliating interaction and encounters are easily available to view on the net. I have no doubt some, probably a lot, is forced or coerced to the detriment of the Subs, poor souls, which is bad enough. But I also have no doubt that many viewers, unable to distinguish the genuine from the fantasy or just straight abuse (as with hardcore porn), see it as 'typical' and amateurishly and tragically incorporate it into their real lives. Reported cases of physical & mental domestic abuse being 30% of all households, how much unreported domestic violence and abuse is unknown.

Granted there are Doms (Tops) and Subs (Bottoms) in both sexes of varying degrees. Granted some may have such a chemical / hormonal balance that the Endorphin, Dopamine, Oxytocin, Adrenaline & whatever released into their system gives them a euphoric experience of 'Flying' or an out of body experience when subjected to pain (or from the sense of relief when it is over). Granted that women, by and large from a primitive evolutionary perspective, desire a 'powerful' impregnation. That we humans have a proclivity for guilt, shame, punishment & torture (where would religion be without it?). That many, but especially women, would do anything for that thing we call 'love' or simply not to be alone and broke in the world. That some like to push or subject themselves to the outer limits of experience to enliven an otherwise mundane meaningless life. And other considerations too numerous to mention including the Stockholm syndrome. But some of the practices & images (and there are a hell of a lot of them) go way beyond that and resemble medieval torture chambers ... and beyond? I suspect many of these are literal torture encounters & practices of pimps, their criminal partners or sadistic controllers and have nothing to do with the practise of BDSM for 'mutual activity'. I thought of posting an illustrative photo but decided against it as they are much much too disturbing.

But sometimes, occasionally,  there is *art*  as well. (photo from domsarcyn at tumblr with the caption "I call this set… “Stuffed Up” and I think the various poses/suspensions along with the gags and blindfold just add to the deliciousness. The fact her skin is too perfect makes this seem even more enticing, like she is an incredibly lifelike fuck doll, made to be stuffed up and then used without mercy."). An interesting analogy. Clearly he (or she) is unaware with how much care some doll owners treat their dolls. (A larger res is in my gallery. You have to click on the 'Full Size' button in the gallery).



Click on the image above for full size and the poster gallery

Such a beautiful woman. I would so want to cherish, caress, kiss & love her rather than do this ... but maybe that is not what she wants? like I said: Complex, Incomprehensible and Confusing.

I will leave this topic now, just too many shades of grey. But below are some references if you want to read further: I recommend the first at least to get a better insight.

Hugs and kisses

dolltime

http://www.slate.com/articles/health_and_science/human_nature/2013/03/bondage_dominance_submission_and_sadomasochism_why_s_m_will_never_go_mainstream.html

http://understandingbdsm.blogspot.com.au

https://friskybusinessboutique.com/news/blog/the-endorphin-levels-in-bdsm-a-short-primer-on-sending-a-submissive-into-hyperspace

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM

http://www.rosecoloredasses.com/sirreal/bdsmscience.htm

http://www.girlschase.com/content/why-women-love-bdsm

Comments

G'day everyone,...

Simply: WOW!!!!!

Playtime.

Playing with Dolls is a Joy!
 
WARNING: The Dolls are starting to play Back!

Doing the photos was fun, and the end result came out great.  Very atmospheric.

Mechwizard Consort to the Queen of Curves

Your blogs, always on the cuting edge make for good reading and stimulates the mind.Laughing

Very though-provoking read. That gal is absolutely stunning! What looks very uncomfortable to me does not seem to be bothersome to her. Her expression is unbelieveably calm. 

As always, another great blog my friend. You do a great deal of research and it shows in your article. Really well done :).

Kharn

CoverDoll Publisher To err is human to forgive divine.

Very very thought provoking indeed! Not exactly my cup of tea, but certainly got my attention. Hey, If that's what she wants well then I might play around a bit! Nice photos! I like!

When I posted the blog I assumed the model in the tumblr photo was a real woman. Since posting I have seen some more photos of that particular shoot and now I am not so sure? Just too perfect ..... and that shine on her hands and the form of her vagina and anus ... and a couple of other things.

Some very clever artwork such as with VBabes, some very skillful work with photoshop or a silicone doll?

And if the latter, who made it, does she have an underlying  skeleton, is the head separate from the body as per our dolls,  why no discernable seam or crease lines, what about the calmness of the face and why has our community not seen her before.

What do you think?

You can see more of the photos at https://www.tumblr.com/search/silicone+doll

I've seen the images before.  They're computer graphic art.

Mechwizard Consort to the Queen of Curves

Those are 3D images. They are done in Black and white as this hides colour discrepancies in the skin tones, plus, if you look at the way the legs are bent, then you'll see that they blend into one another, as there is no shadowing where the shin meets the thigh ;). The genitalia is also wrong.

However it very looks good :)

Kharn

CoverDoll Publisher To err is human to forgive divine.

I think you are right, the pics- as amazing and beautiful as they are- are probably fake. It´s amazing what you can make with a doll and a photoshop program, right? BDSM and playing around with your partner is one thing, true sadism is something else. I read some of the Marquis´s books. It´s gross, really not my cup of tea, and I guess not that of most people who tinker with it after reading those shades of grey. Chris

I admit to have been trapped once my with in a knot of the rope of my grappling hook, but what that girl has managed is beyond silly. I honestly do not believe that any doll can be that stupid to get itself wrapped up like that. Therefore I fully agree that it must be a kind of 3D-trick photo. 

Stellai