Toys In The Bedroom
As reported by Mike Kelly
Sex toys can be a wonderful enhancement to lovemaking and a source of truly spectacular pleasure. Over the years, sex toy manufacturers have gone to great lengths to provide toys for almost any conceivable fetish, desire or situation. There are sex toys designed specifically for men, for women, for men to share, for women to share and so on. It's doubtful that you can find a body part, especially in the erogenous zones, that doesn't have several corresponding sex toys that have been designed specifically for it.
Let’s get down to the fundamentals of fun, games and sex toys in the bedroom.
Increased demand for toys has allowed manufacturers to experiment with new shapes and materials, resulting in toys that have amazing life-like properties. Other toys eschew life-like qualities and focus their attention on the direct stimulation of a particular body part, such as the clitoris or the g-spot.
When selecting sex toys for purchase, it's best to be specific as to your personal tastes (i.e., for a woman, do you prefer vaginal, clitoral or g-spot stimulation). You'll also be better off spending a little bit more to get quality toys. The difference in both the materials used and the performance given by the more expensive toys can be enormous. Good sex toys cost from $12.00 dollars for a basic silicone dildo to $6,000 dollars for a Realdoll (a complete person – male or female made from silicone complete with sex organs.) Generally, the more expensive the sex toy the better made they are.
“Help! My girlfriend and I have a good sex life, but recently she’s tried to introduce sex toys into our relationship. I’m not really into them, and I’m wondering: Am I being a prude, or should I go along with the game?â€
Many people however when confronted by a person with sex toys, feel threatened. After all, you probably wonder why anyone would need a substitute for the real deal. There’s a good reason why bedroom gadgets are called toys - they’re supposed to be fun. And that’s all that person wants. “Yeah, but why now?†you ask. ConÂsider three scenarios.
Best case: Your lovemaking blows your partner away and has taken them to new levels of ecÂstasy and satisfaction. They are so turned on by you and feel so comfortable with you that they are now game for anything in the sexÂual arena. You’ve unleashed a level of sexual creativity in them that they never knew they had.
Worst case: Your partner is too embarrassed to tell you that you’re not ringing their bell. And pulling out the reinforcements is their indirect way of telling you just that. Needless to say, you had better pick up the pace in terms of applying the foreplay skill set.
Most likely case: Your partner has already had plenty of experience with sexual toys— whether shared or alone. No matter. You should count your blessings for having snared a partner who is this comfortable with their own sexuality.
If your partner trusts you enough to introduce sex toys, then you should not only participate but also contribute. Go to your local Sex Toys “R†Us, or shop online for a playÂthing or two. If you’re too squeamish to make such overt purÂchases, take a hint from the many people who have confessed to me that they often shop for more than just lettuce in the produce section of the local supermarket.
Interjecting toys into the tricky turn-on equation can certainly stoke insecurities. What is your partner saying, that the sight of your body isn’t enough to fire them up?
By hauling out extra gear, your partner could just be telling you (indiÂrectly) that your routine needs a little retooling. The trusty three-position maneuver just doesn’t deÂliver that gushy feeling that it once did, and now they’re running with the ball, making a play to bring on some fresh approaches. Light exÂperimentation with blindfolds, Velcro handcuffs or other creative restraining and spanking devices can electrify the act by adding a frisson of fear. But if their toys threaten you, pull out a few of your own: innovative lingerie (for her), an instructional sex video, a camcorder or even a can of Cool Whip and some berries. See if they’ll play your games.
Still feeling queasy? Try a simÂple approach for starters: ask your partner to pop an Altoid before they kisses you below the belt. Such subtle game playing can lead to more agÂgressive experimentation, as you both get more excited and comÂfortable with each other. That’s reÂally what this is about: being comÂfortable. You need to decide how much you’re willing to do and how uninhibited you can be to please them.
If classic S&M gear—whips, chains, clips and paddles—is what they have invested in, you might be facing a rude departure into new terrain. Unlike plain-vanilla bondage, which most people tire of after a few nights, a hardcore approach is probaÂbly something that could last a while. So find out what they have in mind. Then it’s time to decide whether to go for full-blown involvement—or a new partner.
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